Tag: self-improvement

• Stop Chasing Perfection: Time to Be More You

  I see you striving to be better.

  I see you trying to improve yourself so you could have the relationships/body/job/life of your dreams.

  I see you wanting to change your clothes, your hair, your face*.

  I see you feeling itchy and uncomfortable just being you so you’re constantly looking for ways to make yourself into something different. 

  Because you think different is better.

   

  And I’m here to tell you, you need to stop that.

  You need to stop seeing yourself as a project for improvement. 

  You need to stop trying to change who you are so you could fit better into the world.

   

  The world is massive. It’s got room for ALL that you are.

  You just need to trust there’s space for all of you.

  And hey, I know building that trust is the hard part.

   

  Stretching out to be exactly who you are is the hard part. But you gotta do it anyway. 

  Because the alternative is like carving yourself with thousands of small cuts to make yourself smaller.

   

  And if you’re feeling scared there’s no room for you as you are, I got you. Come on over to the Wild side. We got room for all of that and all the space you need to become even MORE yourself

   

  *Where my 80s kids at? Let me know if you got the reference!.

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• WANT TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON? WHY YOU NEED TO STOP TRYING TO IMPROVE YOURSELF

  Hey look, I know you want growth and improvement. That’s why you’re searching for and consuming content like this, right?

   

  And you may believe that if you could just find the “magic key” to unlock it all, you’d become a better person. Someone more productive. Someone with less flaws. Someone with a life of more ease. Someone who hurts less. Fears less. Gets triggered less.

   

  And that’s completely understandable. When you’re not happy with who and where you are, searching for the fix seems like the obvious thing to do.

   

  But constant search for improvement is actually an act of self-abandonment. 

   

  Because every time you think about improving yourself, you also tell yourself “Who I am right now isn’t good enough.”

   

  That’s nothing but judgement and resistance towards your current self.

   

  And judgement and resistance are instant growth killers. 

   

  Judgement kills growth, because it makes you want to slop off parts of yourself instead of cultivating new, exciting ways to exist.

   

  Resistance kills growth because it exhausts you. Being in constant resistance to who and where you are takes up a lot of energy. It consumes your time and your effort, when you could be focusing on how to expand and grow.

   

  So what’s the alternative to self-improvement, when you also don’t want to remain where you are?

   

  It all starts with compassion and self-acceptance. And before you scoff at them as the best tools for real change, consider this:

   

  Everything that flourishes, does so because it’s supported by its environment. 

   

  There’s no real growth in an environment of judgement and resistance. Which self-improvement (no matter how prettily packaged) essentially is.

   

  You want growth and change? When you fully embrace who and where you are, you release all the energy you used to fight it. And then you’re free to use that energy to propel yourself forward. 

   

  Trust me, it’s a lot easier to grow and change when you use your current state as your soil, not something you need to uproot.

  And if you want to learn how to live a life of MORE, not less, stick around, because that’s exactly what we explore here.

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• HOW TO LET GO OF THE PAST

  So you want to let go of your past?

  What if I told you there was a better way?

  What if I told you that instead of erasing your history, you could transform it into the fuel for your future growth?

   

  We don’t need a spotless past to flourish. We need the fertile ground of our experiences.

   

  Think of everything that grows.

  It all grows from the ground, where everything that has decayed and died is. The ground that’s made of the past, is such a fertile soil for growth.

   

  The moment you stop trying to erase parts of yourself or your past, everything changes.

  You get to stop running. You stop fighting what’s already there. Instead you cultivate it. You use it. You make it your fertiliser. You realise that ALL that you are now is the perfect ground for you to grow into all that you will be.

   

  When you own your past instead of erasing it, it becomes a part of your story. The one where you triumphed over hardships. The one that showcases your resilience. It becomes a part of your hero’s journey, instead of something to be ashamed of.

   

  When you choose growth instead of erasure, everything feels different.

  Old difficulties become the source of your current wisdom. Past wounds the soil of your new growth.

   

  And here’s the VITAL part of it all.

  When you own your past, you make it fully yours. And when it’s fully yours, you get to decide how you use it. And my dear fellow human, you can use it ANY way you want!

   

  You can create an epic story of triumph and overcoming out of your past. You can make it your source of compassion and understanding. You can let it open you up to everything that sprouts from it.

   

  When you own your past, you no longer need to ask how to let it go. Because it becomes your source for your growth, resilience and wisdom.

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