Hey look, I know you want growth and improvement. That’s why you’re searching for and consuming content like this, right?
And you may believe that if you could just find the “magic key” to unlock it all, you’d become a better person. Someone more productive. Someone with less flaws. Someone with a life of more ease. Someone who hurts less. Fears less. Gets triggered less.
And that’s completely understandable. When you’re not happy with who and where you are, searching for the fix seems like the obvious thing to do.
But constant search for improvement is actually an act of self-abandonment.
Because every time you think about improving yourself, you also tell yourself “Who I am right now isn’t good enough.”
That’s nothing but judgement and resistance towards your current self.
And judgement and resistance are instant growth killers.
Judgement kills growth, because it makes you want to slop off parts of yourself instead of cultivating new, exciting ways to exist.
Resistance kills growth because it exhausts you. Being in constant resistance to who and where you are takes up a lot of energy. It consumes your time and your effort, when you could be focusing on how to expand and grow.
So what’s the alternative to self-improvement, when you also don’t want to remain where you are?
It all starts with compassion and self-acceptance. And before you scoff at them as the best tools for real change, consider this:
Everything that flourishes, does so because it’s supported by its environment.
There’s no real growth in an environment of judgement and resistance. Which self-improvement (no matter how prettily packaged) essentially is.
You want growth and change? When you fully embrace who and where you are, you release all the energy you used to fight it. And then you’re free to use that energy to propel yourself forward.
Trust me, it’s a lot easier to grow and change when you use your current state as your soil, not something you need to uproot.
And if you want to learn how to live a life of MORE, not less, stick around, because that’s exactly what we explore here.